The art of controversy, the art of interaction, call it what you will. The main thing is efficiency.
The ability to convey meaning is one of the most important human skills. Everything depends on proper communication – personal life, friendship with people, corporate success and, in general, interaction with society.
However, not every one of us realizes that it is necessary to be able to communicate. There are many talented people in their fields who could achieve incredible things, but the barrier to this is poor communication. Today it is often not enough to be an amazing artist, a professional photographer or a first-class financier – you need to present yourself, gain respect and defend the boundaries.
Remember who you’re dealing with
Any time you intend to enter into a discussion with someone (no matter how productive it is), remember that each person needs a different approach. Someone is too serious, the other, on the contrary, is too ironic. To make your interaction effective, try to adapt to the interlocutor.
Perhaps at this stage you will remember the line “You should not bend under a changing world” and want to resist everything in the world, but we recommend that you do not do this. If you want to achieve results, remember that sometimes you can’t do without the basics of diplomacy.
Look for non-verbal cues
Often they say much more than just words. When a person tells you: “I am with you with all my heart,” his arms simply cannot be crossed over his chest – this is contrary to the whole law of honesty. If he really comes to you with all his heart, his palms should be open and reach out to you, sending the energy of goodness.
So, if in doubt about what has been said, take a closer look at the gestures – they are unlikely to lie.
Work on the beginning and ending
In fact, people remember best the beginning of a conversation and its end (similar to performing on stage). Therefore, take care to effectively appear (or start) and end the dialogue effectively. It can be some kind of final remark that will touch a nerve, or a rhetorical question hanging in space, to which there is no momentary answer.
Don’t be a bore
Do not be too serious and concentrated. All our interlocutors are alive, so a sense of humor and informal turns of speech can defuse the situation. People are accustomed to joking even in big politics, where, it would seem, there are no more serious faces. Therefore, do not think that you suddenly seem not very solid. Act according to the situation and make people laugh if the situation requires it.
Do not forget to listen to the interlocutor
Sometimes in the course of a conversation with a person, we think not about what he is telling us, but about what we should answer. This is one of the most misguided communication strategies – it is not only ineffective, but also completely selfish. Therefore, always try to listen with interest and involvement to the words of your opponent. So you have every chance to get the answers you need without even asking questions.