Looks like we’ve been doing it at the wrong time most of our lives.
How much sex do you need to have to live longer? If something has gone wrong in your sex life – the pleasure isn’t as spicy as it used to be, or your libido is declining – perhaps all you need to do is make love at a different time. Researchers are serious: The most popular time for most people to indulge in bed pleasures is the worst time. Here are the details.
In 2018, Frontiers in Psychology published a study that investigated when female and male libidos are most and least active. The results were disconcerting: we want each other most at strictly opposite time periods. For example, for women, desire peaks in the evening and for men, on the contrary, in the morning. Most of the couples in the study indicated that they preferred to have sex between 9 p.m. and midnight. But while this is logistically true, it almost guarantees the lowest sensations possible: the peak of the male libido is still a long way off, and the female libido, though near the highest point, is likely weakened by fatigue from work and household chores.
And while experts cite sex as one of the most effective ways to relieve stress and relax before bedtime (if you have sleep disorders, insomnia or just high levels of daily stress, evening lovemaking is likely to benefit you), the sensations experienced by both partners are likely to be far from maximum.
As for morning sex, it may be good for the man, but it will take more effort than usual for the woman to enjoy it. You’ll need longer foreplay and it’s likely to take longer – unless, of course, you’re interested in making sure you’re not the only one having an orgasm.
When is the best time to have sex?
Of course, the correct answer is when you feel like it. But if you’re prepared to be guided by your circadian cycles and biorhythms, 3pm is a good time. By this time, women’s cortisol levels are high enough for them to feel aroused and energized, while men’s testosterone levels are slightly lower, making them more emotional and sensitive (but male levels are high enough for good libido and strong erections).